Popular media personality, Bolanle Olukanni has taken to social media to share her thoughts regarding the place of sex in love relationships.
Bolanle, a strong advocate for abstinence, discussed its value and highlighted how everything was complicated by sex.
In a series of tweets, she emphasised that having sex may strain relationships and make it more difficult to see things clearly and make intelligent decisions.
She disputes the notion that having sex is only a lighthearted act, contending that the true purpose of the encounter is to deepen your relationship with the person you are really in love with.
Despite the common misconception among young people today that sex is “just sex,” Bolanle pointed out that sex involves much more than just physical closeness.
According to her, they have a close relationship that shouldn’t be overlooked or underestimated.
Bolanle also discussed her own experience with abstinence, claiming that it allows her to make more rapid and logical judgements in her relationships.
She added that she finds that it fosters a better sense of connection to shift the focus from in-person interactions to meaningful talks and character assessments.
She wrote:
“Sex complicates everything. You can’t see clearly and you can’t make decisions properly. It was created to bond you to a person. Convince yourself allll you want that it is just sex. It’s not and will never be.
I make relationship decisions quick because my mind is clear. I can see the person for who they are early on in the relationship.
Sex isn’t distracting us. It’s about conversation, how do they treat me, what’s their character. These are the things that last!
I love myself too much to short change myself. And no one will ever convince me otherwise. With the wisdom of God and guidance of the Holy Spirit I know this the right way to do this.
When I tell people that abstinence is way to go when you are getting to know someone. They think I’m crazy. It’s not me that will be deceived because of my hormones. Sweetie you ain’t in love you are just horny.”
